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Here’s The Thing…
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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…

Here’s The Thing…

Based on a true conversation tonight. I received permission to relay the context of this story as it’s not really my story to tell, but there is such value here.

A friend called me and she was struggling after having these words said to her “here’s the thing” and it left her unsettled. Words are powerful and trigger so much in us at a core level.  W.O.R.D.S can trigger the obvious and hidden hurts of feelings we have yet to resolve or feelings we don’t want to associate with ourselves any longer.

My take, when emotions turn to rationalizing and rationalizing turns into excuses, excuses bottom out with a quick truth ending dialogue sometimes concluding with “here’s the thing”.

What exactly does that imply? Is that the bottom line? Yes, most often.  Is that the moment we acquiesce to our feelings? Yes, we are done investing energy.

I believe it sums up the way we choose to convey a truth. A truth that we no longer care to address or indulge in.  It’s a moving on statement.  “Here’s the thing” really is a point of disconnect, an I’m at my limit and no amount of talking, no amount of discussion, pleading, begging, crying or negotiating is going to change the situation of what is.

If someone uses this phrase on you or vice verse, remember, a simple kindness is to use a tone of understanding and empathy towards the person who is on the receiving end. It’s OK to stand your ground but there is no need to dismiss or diminish another persons feelings while you are in the throws of trying to escape. Sincerity and a firm position in your desire to exit is a wonderful way of being clear and being true to your cause. If you add in a little compassion, I believe Karma will be on your side.  Not everything in life is meant to be, how we handle it though builds character and valuable lessons.

I learn from my friends always and feel blessed that my friend was trusting enough to share this with me and then to let me share this with you.  Such important reminders as to how much power words can carry when we attach feelings to the words we internalize.

Julie xo

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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…

I am not normally this effected by the retrogrades however, this one, I call the Mother (fucker) of Retrogrades.  I am usually a positive person, looking at all the goodness, possibilities and opportunities for growing and this round of retrograde is proving to be a true push of purging old patterns, thoughts and beliefs.

I am OK with change as that is part of the ever evolving flow of life but some changes are more pertinent and potent than others and those are the ones that sting and push you in the direction you should be going. As we know, if you don’t know make decisions in your life, life makes decisions for you.  Good Stuff, eh?!

So, here is my take care plan until this all smooths over or at least the intensity mellows out.  If you’re getting your ass kicked around a little too, maybe these self care suggestions will help you!

  • I’m eating warm foods to feed the comfort I am desiring.  For example so far over the last week approximately, I’ve made Potato Leek Soup. Butternut Squash soup and a Veggie Stew.  I bought some Gluten Free Bread from Great Harvest and made a few slices into croutons for my soups.  Yum!
  • I’m talking with friends who are empathetic, positive and sometimes have more intense retrograde poo occurring than me.  You see sometimes it helps to remove the focus from yourself and reach out to others who are struggling.
  • Not everyone has to do this, however I did create an association of feeling like I was doing something good for my spirit and so with that said, I bought myself a new local companies organic face moisturizer and then went to Victoria’s Secret and bought myself a little something cozy and sexy.
  • I swapped out my cool summer like sheets for my warm flannel sheets, washed my comforter and made my bed, which I don’t usually bother doing.
  • Everywhere I go, I talk to strangers (just friends we haven’t met yet) and ask them how they are doing.  Surprisingly the bulk seem to share their stories which is such a beautiful instant relatability factor affirming that we really are all humans together in this retrograde festival of changes.
  • I’m allowing myself  to feel every emotion and go through the motions and then when I’ve had enough, I let them go.  Sometimes they come back (some are super persistent) so I look at them a little closer and then I release them again.  I do not beat myself up for any feelings, tears, joys, etc., I embrace them and thank them for showing up and providing clarity as to how I authentically feel.
  • I walk almost everyday or get in some form of movement.  For instance if no walk, perhaps yoga (at home so far) or I confront the kickbag in my garage, etc.
  • Lastly, I go back to being grateful for this life, for these opportunities to be clear in my growth and wants and needs. I celebrate the soliloquy of conversations between my head and my heart and reality.  I know this retrograde will not last forever and my health is good, my family and friends are good and eventually life will balance back out, bringing with it the changes that have incurred and eventually becoming manageable, for change is just a different path or direction and with the right outlook, is always doable.

So here’s to the next few days of the rest of the retrograde, cheers to the 23rd when the NEW MOON is here and I reset my intentions with love, positivity, a little magic and a peaceful center.

Love Julie, xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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