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Never Be Afraid To Stand Up for Yourself!
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Some of My Favorite A’s

Never Be Afraid To Stand Up for Yourself!

Never be afraid to stand up for yourself!  You know when someone insults your soul because it hurts in a way that makes you doubt yourself and goes against what you know to be true to your core, to your life energy.  You are worth a relationship that feeds your soul, supports your dreams and thoughts, and is kind to your standards from their heart to your heart, not just their idea of what a relationship is…

You are your best advocate. If you feel like you’ve been insulted, odds are, you have.  If you feel like you’re being belittled, odds are, you are.

Common symptoms of being controlled and manipulated: 

  • If you find yourself dropping friends and taking on his/her friends
  • If you find you’ve changed your clothing, shoes and certain physical aspects of yourself for his/her appeasement
  • If you pass off his/her passive aggressive behaviors as “oh that’s just part of who he/she is”
  • If you find yourself making excuses for his/her insensitivity towards your feelings over anything
  • If you find yourself thinking about the nice things he/she does for you as a compensation for the shitty things he/she says or does
  • If he/she buys items for you that may be more appropriate for his/her comfort level, not yours  (i.e) certain types of shoes, clothes, music selections, etc.)
  • If you have tell yourself “oh they are just a wounded little child on the inside, I understand”. Well, we’re all little children on the inside and that is no excuse for abusing your kind heart
  • If you’re on his/her time frame.  Your events in life are of non-importance and any inconvenience you have is ridiculous on your part – NOT!
  • If his/her family doesn’t really like your partner.  There could be a reason why. Not always, but listen to what they are saying
  • If you are not allowed to have friends of the same sex due to the others insecurities (this includes your job, workout environment, school functions, etc)
  • If you are bullied out of your beliefs through belittling and zero compassion from where you came or even the kindness to listen with a full compassionate heart
  • If your partner uses phrases like “do it for me”, “women/men your age don’t…fill in the blank of whatever applies”, “if you loved me, you’d…” “That’s not normal” and other fun phrases that make you believe you’re the one who needs to change.
  • If your partner cannot apologize because they really believe no matter what they say or do, they don’t owe you any recognition of your feelings
  • If you feel relaxed in your time alone and he/she just wants to know why you need time to yourself
  • If he/she implements double standards like it’s OK for them to go away with their friends but not you, because men/women may be predators to you
  • If your partner tries to control circumstances for their convenience and steam rolls over anyone in the process, that’s a NO Bueno!

Nothing can trump compassion and  understanding from you partner in a relationship, however, if their means of communication is really a source of control and passive aggressive banter, how loving is that really?

It’s hard to admit that we all make poor choices in mates sometimes.  Be your own best friend and advocate of self. YOURSELF!

I have been there and it just rubs me the wrong way to see it happen to someone else. Especially when he/she has children as well. One can only hide their true nature for so long and then like a balloon that pops, you realize you’ve been manipulated out of things you believe, who you are, what you want, torn down and built back up to someone elses’ model of you.

Do what feels right to you, to your heart, to your soul, to your gut.  Ignoring the little voice on the inside doesn’t make anothers violating behavior dissipate, it only feeds your little voice a louder tone that can eventually burst into dis-ease, dis-comfort and dis-cord with one’s true happy self.

OBEY THE LITTLE VOICE!

 

 

 

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Some of My Favorite A’s

These are just a few of the A’s that I love so much!  Each A is a gift to my Palette and makes me oh so happy knowing that some of the seriously nutritious foods I eat begin with the very first letter in our Alphabet!

Almonds– A handful a day helps you receive about of quarter of your daily nutrients like calcium, magnesium, manganese, copper, potassium, selenium and they are high in fiber.  Don’t be concerned about the percentage of fat when label checking, almonds contain mostly healthy fat, the unsaturated kinds. They have been rumored to be good for your heart due to the Vitamin E content and good for your colon.  It’s also been mentioned that Almonds help give you a flat tummy! With those kinds of rumors, I think a handful a day is a good decision.

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Apples–  When you were growing up, maybe your mother said: An Apple a day, keeps the Doctor away. She may have been right!  Apples contain Pectin and Pectin is a fiber source that helps to reduce your cholesterol and keeps your colon working regularly.  Apples also have a small amount of Vitamin C and Potassium.  Plus, they are yummy and help to fill your tummy as a great mid-morning or afternoon snack!  *Apple skin is really good for you, however, the skin holds the pesticides, so make sure to use a good fruit wash or use the one recommended above.*Also, if you Juice your apples, you can actually include the seeds!

Apricots – This is one fruit that is loaded with Vitamin A!!  Vitamin A Beta Carotene, A- Carotenoid.  Vitamin A supports good vision and enough fruit containing Vitamin A can assist in preventing Macular Degeneration.  The smaller relative of the Peach also provides us with a healthy dose of Vitamin C. They are also a very fiber filled fruit which may be a gentler alternative for constipation.  Actually dried Apricots work like a natural laxative!  So, eat dried apricots for pleasure or eat them for a little help with mother nature, either way, pay attention to how many you have consumed or you could be running to the bathroom!
Artichokes – The dangerously pointed Vegetable is truly one of my all time fav’s.  It’s like hunting when you buy one, as you are rooting through, you are carefully picking your prey and determing which sharp tipped Artichoke will make into your bag home.  Did you capture this large Vegetable without meeting it’s one or more of it’s spikey leaves? Sounds fun huh?!  The Artichoke is at the top of the list for it’s fiber content, alittle over 10 grams. Your daily recommended amt. is anywhere from 20-30 grams.  Not a bad end to the day if you’re consuming these at dinnertime.  The Artichoke is also loaded with Vitamin C, Potassium (great for normal heart rythm), Magnesium, and believe it or not, they contain 4 grams of Protein!

Asparagus -A is for Aphrodisiac! Asparagus is a known libido booster!! Aside from it’s sexy qualities, it also contains Folate which is vital for helping to have healthy babies and proper functioning nervous systems. When paired with B12 is great for cognitive brain function and can help stave off aging brain symptoms.  Asparagus helps keep your Blood Pressure low, helps to prevent kidney stones and is an alkaline food which is necessary to keep your body in a healthy balance.  It’s loaded with antioxidants which as we know are important for fighting free radicals and may help to prevent cancer. Personally, for the Libido portion alone, this vegetable just got a little more attractive!

Avocado – Avocado how we love you so!  If you want healthy fats, this is a rich, creamy go to!!  This tough skinned Fruit, yes, Fruit, is loaded with Oleic Acid which has been known to help prevent breast cancer, plus with other cancer fighting compounds it’s been known to reduce, prostate and oral cancer as well.  The Carotoid Luten in Avocados is great for your eyes and Avocados contain 13 of the most important vitamins (A,B, C, D and K, etc.) your body needs. The next time you’re worried about fat content, just remember, this is the Healthy fat and if you have to choose between Cookies, Chips or an Avocado, go for the Avo! You just need a pinch of salt, pepper and a spoon!

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