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Apparently I’m a Survivor and a Thriver! Awesome!
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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…
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Gratitude, not Attitude- Food for Your Soul

Apparently I’m a Survivor and a Thriver! Awesome!

Well, if there is one thing I’ve learned over this holiday season, is that I really do like myself regardless of what I do and don’t have.  I spent a lot of time with myself, crying at first for the 24 hrs before Christmas day itself, then realizing I hold the key to leaving my house, on my own, without shame, on Christmas day. This was afterall my first holiday ever in my entire life without my son, without family, without friends, without a place to celebrate in a community and a space at the dinner table with my name on it.

img_3594-704x454The Light Bulb Moment of  Who gives a fuck that I’m alone, family is in the Valley, son is abroad, friends and neighbors are gone doing their thing, I deserve to have the best day I can, was so freeing. No pressure. It turned out to be a wonder-ful day of talking to a few new faces, seeing movies, walking my dog and enjoying a warm coffee on a beautiful blue skied, brisk day in the PNW!

What hit me was that I was surrounded by love in a variety of ways.  I spoke to family & friends, exchanged silly snapchat videos, I facebooked several others, the sunshine kissed my face and the trees all high fived me as I walked by them.   That morning as I took a shower, I said outloud to the universe, “today, (Christmas) I invite only goodness, only energy that supports me and allows me to smile from the inside out”.    Sure enough, that is exactly how my day presented itself to me.   I felt warm, loved and grateful to have a car that works,  money for the movies,  food in my fridge and my belly, my loved ones are safe and healthy, my dog is a cute snugglebunny who needs a breathmint and the freedom to do what I want with my time.  My life is good.

This was definitely a necessary and good experience as to what I really value, what I really want in my life and how I’ve always been a survivor and thriver!

I hope your days are filled with the many blessings life has to offer and may you always be present for the sunrise and sunset in your own life!

Love Julie, xo

 

 

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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…

I am not normally this effected by the retrogrades however, this one, I call the Mother (fucker) of Retrogrades.  I am usually a positive person, looking at all the goodness, possibilities and opportunities for growing and this round of retrograde is proving to be a true push of purging old patterns, thoughts and beliefs.

I am OK with change as that is part of the ever evolving flow of life but some changes are more pertinent and potent than others and those are the ones that sting and push you in the direction you should be going. As we know, if you don’t know make decisions in your life, life makes decisions for you.  Good Stuff, eh?!

So, here is my take care plan until this all smooths over or at least the intensity mellows out.  If you’re getting your ass kicked around a little too, maybe these self care suggestions will help you!

  • I’m eating warm foods to feed the comfort I am desiring.  For example so far over the last week approximately, I’ve made Potato Leek Soup. Butternut Squash soup and a Veggie Stew.  I bought some Gluten Free Bread from Great Harvest and made a few slices into croutons for my soups.  Yum!
  • I’m talking with friends who are empathetic, positive and sometimes have more intense retrograde poo occurring than me.  You see sometimes it helps to remove the focus from yourself and reach out to others who are struggling.
  • Not everyone has to do this, however I did create an association of feeling like I was doing something good for my spirit and so with that said, I bought myself a new local companies organic face moisturizer and then went to Victoria’s Secret and bought myself a little something cozy and sexy.
  • I swapped out my cool summer like sheets for my warm flannel sheets, washed my comforter and made my bed, which I don’t usually bother doing.
  • Everywhere I go, I talk to strangers (just friends we haven’t met yet) and ask them how they are doing.  Surprisingly the bulk seem to share their stories which is such a beautiful instant relatability factor affirming that we really are all humans together in this retrograde festival of changes.
  • I’m allowing myself  to feel every emotion and go through the motions and then when I’ve had enough, I let them go.  Sometimes they come back (some are super persistent) so I look at them a little closer and then I release them again.  I do not beat myself up for any feelings, tears, joys, etc., I embrace them and thank them for showing up and providing clarity as to how I authentically feel.
  • I walk almost everyday or get in some form of movement.  For instance if no walk, perhaps yoga (at home so far) or I confront the kickbag in my garage, etc.
  • Lastly, I go back to being grateful for this life, for these opportunities to be clear in my growth and wants and needs. I celebrate the soliloquy of conversations between my head and my heart and reality.  I know this retrograde will not last forever and my health is good, my family and friends are good and eventually life will balance back out, bringing with it the changes that have incurred and eventually becoming manageable, for change is just a different path or direction and with the right outlook, is always doable.

So here’s to the next few days of the rest of the retrograde, cheers to the 23rd when the NEW MOON is here and I reset my intentions with love, positivity, a little magic and a peaceful center.

Love Julie, xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Gratitude, not Attitude- Food for Your Soul

Gratitude not Attitude is really a philosophy that when practiced, reminds you that everything you need, you already have. This is not to negate that there are basics we need in this world to survive, it’s to help you see that what you seek, is available in a variety of ways to you and perhaps what you need doesn’t show up in the form in which you’ve expected.

When you enjoy what you are surrounded by, you do not wish for more.  You delight in what is right in front of you.  You live in the moment and feel the joy of the people around you or perhaps you are a better friend, better human in the world.

The best recipe for Gratitude, not Attitude is:

  • Stop right where you are
  • Breathe in all the positives
  • Appreciate the people in your life, past and present
  • Share your wisdom
  • Smile and be kind daily and remember your focus is being grateful for each opportunity that arrives

I like to begin my day with meditation.  I use the first 5-10 min. or so to focus on gratitude.  I do not wish for things I do not have, or didn’t get or want but I cannot have them.  I focus on the love I do have, the people in my life who are blessings, my son, my dog, my home, and creature comforts that make my life easier. I focus on a mantra I created for myself, honoring loving, gratitude I feel.

It’s not to say that I don’t have heartaches or challenges or obstacles that need to be overcome, it’s to say that I am not focusing on what I cannot change, however I am appreciating the positives, now.

Each night before you go to sleep, write down a few things you were grateful for throughout your day.  It can be as simple as being in gratitude to the person who asked “How are you today” to you having the opportunity to open a door for someone.  Daily Kindnesses.  It can be your child’s laugh or funny story, it can be a moment in nature that caught your eye and captured your heart.  The point is, reflect, feel and write.

Sincerely,
In Gratitude

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