Tag - Love

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Apparently I’m a Survivor and a Thriver! Awesome!
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Little Bird, Little Bird, Where Did The Time Go? An Empty Nesters first..
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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…
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Soul, Rumi, Mystic & Love
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Why Your Pet is Good For Your Soul xo

Apparently I’m a Survivor and a Thriver! Awesome!

Well, if there is one thing I’ve learned over this holiday season, is that I really do like myself regardless of what I do and don’t have.  I spent a lot of time with myself, crying at first for the 24 hrs before Christmas day itself, then realizing I hold the key to leaving my house, on my own, without shame, on Christmas day. This was afterall my first holiday ever in my entire life without my son, without family, without friends, without a place to celebrate in a community and a space at the dinner table with my name on it.

img_3594-704x454The Light Bulb Moment of  Who gives a fuck that I’m alone, family is in the Valley, son is abroad, friends and neighbors are gone doing their thing, I deserve to have the best day I can, was so freeing. No pressure. It turned out to be a wonder-ful day of talking to a few new faces, seeing movies, walking my dog and enjoying a warm coffee on a beautiful blue skied, brisk day in the PNW!

What hit me was that I was surrounded by love in a variety of ways.  I spoke to family & friends, exchanged silly snapchat videos, I facebooked several others, the sunshine kissed my face and the trees all high fived me as I walked by them.   That morning as I took a shower, I said outloud to the universe, “today, (Christmas) I invite only goodness, only energy that supports me and allows me to smile from the inside out”.    Sure enough, that is exactly how my day presented itself to me.   I felt warm, loved and grateful to have a car that works,  money for the movies,  food in my fridge and my belly, my loved ones are safe and healthy, my dog is a cute snugglebunny who needs a breathmint and the freedom to do what I want with my time.  My life is good.

This was definitely a necessary and good experience as to what I really value, what I really want in my life and how I’ve always been a survivor and thriver!

I hope your days are filled with the many blessings life has to offer and may you always be present for the sunrise and sunset in your own life!

Love Julie, xo

 

 

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Little Bird, Little Bird, Where Did The Time Go? An Empty Nesters first..

As holidays approach and what used to be standard is no longer, I am acutely aware that my son is out in this world, living a dream and exploring an opportunity he manifested into reality.  This is what we want for our children and we know the process is going to carry many emotions and we let  go and hold on in only a way that we can.

Normally, I would be decorating the house for the Fall season and Halloween, however I chose this year to leave behind the hype and colorful pieces of celebration.  Why?  The only conclusion I’ve come up with is that I feel like I have outgrown this particular feeling of needing and wanting this for myself.  Part of the joy was the collaboration of parties and decor with festive neighbors who had kids and we were all taking a part in the community hallows eve of doing it for the kids and it made us happy to see them happy, but mostly for me, it was the pure comfort of knowing my son quietly appreciated the fun end result of having a home filled with warmth.

So, with a nostalgic twinkle in my eyes and holding space in my heart, I watch other parents with their little ones, I watch them laughing,  I watch them taking part in these rituals that are really silly conceptually overall (whole different blog!), I watch them form their traditions that help weave the fabric of family that I once had the pleasure of creating as well.

There are a few other little birds  (my nieces & step daughters) my son and I used to celebrate these moments with as well.  These memories are embedded in my heart. Funniest part is, I am only at Halloween in my nostalgia! There is still Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years left!

As the year continues on, my heartspace grows to epic proportions of love and gratitude and I make my way by seeing the joy in others, creating some new traditions this year,  knowing that I am so blessed and have great new neighbors, great friends near and far, activities to keep me busy, time for creations that are being birthed and born in my business life, volunteering opportunities and family that I will see when they come to visit. I find peace knowing that my son is safe, sound and enjoying his creation of memories and making new friends.

This is just a snippet into my open heart of an empty nesters first season without her kiddo.  Remember time flies and so do our little birds. Enjoy Every Moment,

Love Julie xo

(PS) Doggy Love Moment:  My dog is like a 24 hour toddler so I always have him to love on and luckily for me, he accepts every pet, every kiss, every hug!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Is this Mercury Retrograde Sitution Kicking Your Ass? Mine Too…

I am not normally this effected by the retrogrades however, this one, I call the Mother (fucker) of Retrogrades.  I am usually a positive person, looking at all the goodness, possibilities and opportunities for growing and this round of retrograde is proving to be a true push of purging old patterns, thoughts and beliefs.

I am OK with change as that is part of the ever evolving flow of life but some changes are more pertinent and potent than others and those are the ones that sting and push you in the direction you should be going. As we know, if you don’t know make decisions in your life, life makes decisions for you.  Good Stuff, eh?!

So, here is my take care plan until this all smooths over or at least the intensity mellows out.  If you’re getting your ass kicked around a little too, maybe these self care suggestions will help you!

  • I’m eating warm foods to feed the comfort I am desiring.  For example so far over the last week approximately, I’ve made Potato Leek Soup. Butternut Squash soup and a Veggie Stew.  I bought some Gluten Free Bread from Great Harvest and made a few slices into croutons for my soups.  Yum!
  • I’m talking with friends who are empathetic, positive and sometimes have more intense retrograde poo occurring than me.  You see sometimes it helps to remove the focus from yourself and reach out to others who are struggling.
  • Not everyone has to do this, however I did create an association of feeling like I was doing something good for my spirit and so with that said, I bought myself a new local companies organic face moisturizer and then went to Victoria’s Secret and bought myself a little something cozy and sexy.
  • I swapped out my cool summer like sheets for my warm flannel sheets, washed my comforter and made my bed, which I don’t usually bother doing.
  • Everywhere I go, I talk to strangers (just friends we haven’t met yet) and ask them how they are doing.  Surprisingly the bulk seem to share their stories which is such a beautiful instant relatability factor affirming that we really are all humans together in this retrograde festival of changes.
  • I’m allowing myself  to feel every emotion and go through the motions and then when I’ve had enough, I let them go.  Sometimes they come back (some are super persistent) so I look at them a little closer and then I release them again.  I do not beat myself up for any feelings, tears, joys, etc., I embrace them and thank them for showing up and providing clarity as to how I authentically feel.
  • I walk almost everyday or get in some form of movement.  For instance if no walk, perhaps yoga (at home so far) or I confront the kickbag in my garage, etc.
  • Lastly, I go back to being grateful for this life, for these opportunities to be clear in my growth and wants and needs. I celebrate the soliloquy of conversations between my head and my heart and reality.  I know this retrograde will not last forever and my health is good, my family and friends are good and eventually life will balance back out, bringing with it the changes that have incurred and eventually becoming manageable, for change is just a different path or direction and with the right outlook, is always doable.

So here’s to the next few days of the rest of the retrograde, cheers to the 23rd when the NEW MOON is here and I reset my intentions with love, positivity, a little magic and a peaceful center.

Love Julie, xo

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Soul, Rumi, Mystic & Love

Who was Rumi and why should we take to heart what he offers in words?

Rumi was a Passionate, Persian, Mystic and Theologian who in the 13th Century (Medieval times) spoke words of his love of God and the distance between them.  His writings have been translated through time and are considered spiritual and poetic throughout the world as he speaks the language of love.

When you lose all sense of self

the bonds of a thousand chains will vanish.

Lose yourself completely,

return to the root of the root

of your own soul ~

~Rumi~

His poems not only can be related to ones relationship with God, Spirit, Source, whatever you choose or not  choose to personalize, but his words are works that speak to the heart of man.  They are words of longing for your love, for your souls fire and words to express how deeply your passions entwine with another.

The reason I am posting this is because I believe we are longing to belong in the arms of a beloved, to ourselves.  Whether it be spiritual, physical world, or self fulfilled, we are longing to be deeply loved and the first step to loving another person or spirit or God, or whatever you feel, is knowing that we can love ourselves deserving, without longing and suffering. To love ourselves in this way first, to know you are enough and to focus on your loving aspects and what you have to offer can then become a beautiful marriage to Rumi’s words. Rumi’s words speak to each individual in a variety of ways and to apply such loving letters to yourself is to know you are embraced by love all around you. Your beloved is you and all that you are.  Your beloved is your faith.  Your beloved is your family. Your beloved are your friends, all humans, animals, nature, earth, sky, north, south, east, west.  Your beloved is that which is to be-loved by your hearts deepest desires, your soul.

*Self Care Mantra – I will Be-Loved from myself, as I am Love*

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Why Your Pet is Good For Your Soul xo

Posted on February 26, 2014

Your Pet Is Good For Your Soul

I caught myself saying this to my Dog one day, “you’re not boyfriend, you’re my Dog” as he licked my face while I was looking for food on the bottom shelf in the pantry.

This adorable little guy is good for my soul

What does that mean exactly you ask?  I don’t know really.  It made me think.  I guess it means that he fills a need for expression.  It means that my  generously loving and loyal dog that follows me around, protects me, listens to all woes, all my happy moments, shares in movie watching, music listening and sing alongs, hears every conversation I have on the phone, seems to enjoy everything I cook and loves to walk, likes to see some people, recluse it up a bit, sits quietly while I pretend I’m OK at expressing some form of artistic styling known as Art that perhaps a 1st grader painted, is lonely when I leave the house, always happy to see me when I get back, couldn’t eat dinner without me, enjoys when I have women friends over but not men so much, loves when I pet him, when I give him Reiki and loves when I kiss his furry little skull.  He could be my boyfriend, but the co-dependent type that’s hard to say no to because he so cute, hogs the bed with cuteness and really is a sweetheart. But he’s also jealous of my time, high maintenance and it’s often like caring for a toddler.

There are circumstances when the affection of an animal saves peoples spirits and keeps them from feeling too lonely, depressed and they provide many with comfort and someone to talk with and have as a presence around their home. Elderly people often have pets just for that reason. A dog or cat for that matter, although far more independent and borderline snobbish, while they are no replacement for human affection for more than 5 obvious reasons, must be celebrated! Our furry, unconditional loving companions are like children who need caring and nurturing and love to thrive.  We as humans, love to love.

So Cheers and Blessings all day long to these warm and loving friends and just remember, Love is Love, but grown up human love is the kind of love you can share without your clothes on!

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